Being Tinder, the best-known dating network (RdE) in Portugal, there are others that are very popular: Badoo; OKCupid; Happn. Others less: Bumble; Twoo. Others are used as meetings that are not their purpose: Facebook; LinkedIn.
I challenge the reader to think about how many people they know who use any network whatsoever to "meet new people", they will certainly say a small number. I also challenge you to think about how many people you know who DON'T use networks. Whatever numbers you find, I'm sure they're wrong! There are more people using dating networks than you might think.
When it comes to the prospect of getting to know each other for a relationship, very few open up the game, very few admit it, and why? for the usual reason... the fear of being judged! From what we know, no one is there! The fact is that there are A LOT of people there!
In fact, there is no social condemnation of RdE, rather, there is a very unclear idea and prejudices about the objectives of those who use it. The association of sex (especially looking for sex) with RoE has given them an unfair image and the need for "social self-protection" when someone uses RoE with the aim of finding their better half.
Those who have never used RdE have no idea how much work it takes! There are a lot of good people who don't criticize RdE, it's because they've been there and had enough, probably because they didn't get immediate results, even more likely influenced by success stories from those who were there, but who NEVER mentioned that it takes work, this is a hidden truth!
However... this "work" should be seen in another way, because what actually happens is that we are meeting many people at the same time, in real life, it would take us a long time to meet that many people! Therefore, the hassle is just the consequence of an advantage that RoE offers.
Another advantage is that we can talk to someone remotely, protected by the screen of our cell phone or computer. This way, we can quickly find out the most important issues for us and avoid wasting time with someone who will not give us everything that is important to us. When it comes to Love and relationships, the essentials are not enough!
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