What do you prefer to plant? flowers or apples? The flowers are beautiful and fragrant, the apples are nourishing!

When we discover a potential partner, what do we prefer? What do we pay attention to? To the fact that he is attractive? Or is it someone we can count on? Is the butterflies in your stomach more important, or is it someone who can't control themselves with alcohol? Is it more important for someone to go to the cinema, or someone who shares the burden of carrying the shopping?

Will the type of partner we prefer give us the type of relationship we prefer?

Can the same person experience the fire of passion and the light of love? Do those who do sprints also do marathons?

Do we sell the gold of love for pennies of passion?

Do we look for everything in the same person? Are we a person like that, who has everything? Are we blind in one eye, and only see half of what matters? Will the partner we fall in love with be the same one we can tell our secrets to?

Whether this person exists or not is irrelevant, because we first have to decide, or rather... discover what we care about, because it is possible to choose the type of person, but the type of relationship is a consequence.

Do you know the right type of person for the type of relationship you are looking for? Or are you living at the whim of the wind that carries the butterflies in your belly? Waiting for the day to come when the Lion becomes friends with the Zebra?

If you look for the type of relationship you will know what matters to you in the people you meet, disappointments will come to an end.

What do you see when you look at the person you are attracted to? the next day, or a lifetime? This question seems banal, and the answer seems to be "both! and your whole life starts with the next day!"... think about it... do you KNOW if this person is going to give you their whole life? Do you KNOW if this person WANTS to give you their whole life? Are you sure? Just because it will give you the night or the next day?!

It's not worth forcing, that is... changing that person who is our "type" so that they fit the "type" of relationship we prefer, it will be bad for both of us!

It's not worth adapting to the other person, we can't escape ourselves for long, it's going to be bad for both of us too.

Just focusing on others is also a mistake! Two people form a relationship. How much you give, how much you try to make others happy depends on your passion, or your love? Does it depend on your emotions at the moment, or the constant feeling?

The thrill of meeting someone is wonderful! The emotion of meeting and falling in love with someone is always worth experiencing. Seeing beyond that is what comes next, because if the other person disappoints we shouldn't see defects in them, because the defects are in the relationship, and not in each of you!

I repeat: The emotion of meeting and falling in love with someone is worth experiencing. Even if it's not the person who will "feed" us.

Preferring flowers and despising apples can have the terrible consequence of starving!

What does a beautiful couple in photographs matter if they can't decide on their next trip without arguing?! What does a tight, passionate kiss matter if it's going to be the only one?! What's the point in widening your eyes if your heart sinks with abandonment?

It is possible to live in love after choosing Love first!

A life together is not essential to be happy!

If it's a couple... Love, peace, complicity and time are the basis for living a happy and exciting life!

How do we know if a person will give us the type of relationship we are looking for? Talking! Discovering the other! Without forgetting that we also have to reveal our story!

Open our story, and try to read someone else’s story! Ask and answer!

 
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