A couple's relationship having the seal of "prison" is unfortunately the opinion of many. Although, calling it prison is an exaggeration, at least it is felt that the limitations exist. However, these limitations are only important when there is a temptation to overcome them. Or, in a much worse case... if these limitations only want to be overcome by one of the couple.
A (typical) marriage lasts years, preferably decades. We are no longer the same person after 20 years, those two people who got married no longer exist! And these new people, older (in the best sense of the word), more experienced, continue to have ambitions and desires that they would probably never have expected to have 20 years ago. It's inevitable! If these two new people met now, would they get married? It's a difficult question with an emotionally heavy answer (or maybe not)!
Assuming that the feelings are still there, it remains to be seen whether the couple will support each other, whether the limitations will be rewritten with the will of both.
Personal growth is practically mandatory, stopping is dying! We need to learn, experience new things, see new places and so on... we not only need it but we want it!
Sooner or later, someone in the couple will have a desire... a desire... something that will grow in their mind, and must be fulfilled, will it be a journey? resume your studies? It could be so many things!
But, not just these great things... a new hairstyle, a better car?
And in these moments, the couple is put to the test, what will the other do? If everything is accepted, everything will go according to the difficulty and effort of fulfilling the will, but what if the other person says "no"?
There are desires that come and go like the tides, they are not important and it doesn't matter if they are actually fulfilled, but there are other desires that are really important. They are an ambition, a desire to achieve, and these will establish themselves within us, first in the heart and then in the head.
Cutting off your partner's legs will have a more or less heavy consequence depending on the weight of that ambition, that dream. And if it's really an important dream, a "no" will turn into suffering. And too many "no's" will be a disaster waiting to happen.
The suffering caused by repressed personal growth, or by simple repressed personal expression, has the worst consequence: killing love!
And when Love dies, it's a matter of time before the relationship dies too!
